Today has been one of those days. Gooser is teething, which makes him whiny and clingy. The dishes have piled up so high they're spilling over the edge of the sink. There are bits of day-old food on the floor, unfolded laundry piled up in the bedroom, and toys scattered across the living room. My query letter is a mess and I'm starting to wonder if my book is even worth querying.
On Being Enough-- Facing Writer's Depression
Shallee ● Feb 2, 2011
It's too much, and I'm feeling not enough. There's a voice inside us that whispers that to us a lot. You are not enough.
It's an affliction we face often as writers, I think. There are millions of voices on the internet, at conferences, and in books that tell us how to be enough. If we don't reach those goals, we just aren't enough.
You don't write everyday. You are not enough.
You don't blog three times a week. You are not enough.
You haven't been writing since you were three. You are not enough.
You can't afford to go to a conference this year. You are not enough.
Your plot is weak, your characters are flat, your beginning isn't gripping, your idea isn't high concept. You are not enough.
Some days, like today, the voices are louder. With Gooser finally quiet while he munched on cheese, I fought back my depression by tackling the dishes. My husband came home from school, gave me a hug, and thanked me for doing the dishes. And I nearly cried, because it was only dishes, but he told me what I needed.
You don't have to do it all to be enough.
You are trying. That's enough.
So, my friends, today I pass that on to you. You are trying. You are enough.
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